Kurtis was four years old when he moved out of our bed and still needed me at night time until he was about 9. Lila moved out at the age of 3, but kept coming back every night for about 2 years plus was still waking on a regular basis needing me in the night. We moved Clarissa into bed with Lila one night and bam! That's the end of that. She and Lila now sleep together. They both sleep like logs! Works well for everyone! After nearly 16 years of nighttime parenting I am now sleeping at night! Of course we still have the occasional teary little one in the night, but for the most part I go to bed and wake up when my alarm calls me! What a wonderful thing!